Today is the worst of my life, my parents are divorcing. I know this isn't the place to come, but minetime is a place I love. The community is warm and I just need help guys. I need help from the community on what should I do. Any help would be appreciated. I apologize if this is ignorant to do, but I need something to get my mood up. Please no negative or rude comments towards this post. If you reply, thank you guys. Crazy how you can love your parents and grow that bond with them for 15 years and have them tear it apart in the matter of seconds. What could be worse, honestly? That's cliche to say, but I mean it. If anyone is going through this as well or gone through it, please tell me what you did to ease this problem
Honestly I think this could be one of the worst places for you to ask for help, sorry. I could only really recommend you check out this forum and ask there for support. http://forums.au.reachout.com
Well I can and cant relate to this. My parents are split to but it never really effected me to much. my father left when I was 3 years old and has been in and out of my life. so I guess I grew up without a father so it never bothered me that they was split.
First off, things can always get exponentially worse. Second, that just isn't really true. I don't mean to repremand you because there is a small but possible chance you are telling the truth about your situation. I have to say I think you might just be making this whole thing up, but just incase your not, I'd feel pretty bad if you weren't, so I'll try and give you some advice, from my own personal experiences. Ok, so first of all my parents separated when I was 7 and a half. Of course at the time I really didn't know what was happening, except things were really bad. I won't go into details because this isn't any kind of a sob story, but it was nasty, and things still are very nasty. The divorce itself is over, as in both parties are legally separated (parties = parents or defendant or plaintiff, be prepared for many legal terms, as I'm sure at your age you will have many appearances in court) but several other legal consequences and conflicts are still going on. I'll try and put this in the easiest ways possible Legal action(s) and aspects and what to expect: So I don't know how far along your parents are with their divorce plans, but in going to assume they just decided to split up. Both parties will need to hire lawyers, if a party cannot obtain one, the court will appoint one (legal representation in court) Now trust me, I could go on for days about what I think about lawyers but I wont give sook a chance to permanently ban me for profanity or whatever just yet. If it's at all possible, you need to convince your parents not to just pour money into legal actions and lawsuits, especially not lawyer fees. I beg you you need to not let this happen, it's never worth it with the court system. I know for a fact, at least in the California legal system, and I'm completely dead serious here, divorces only end when both parties run out of money. I'll go into more details if you want me to, but for now on to other stuff you need to be prepared for. Therapists You will hear from every therapist you talk to that "it wasn't your fault." 'children often feel they are the ones to blame for the unhappiness, the separation, and blah blah blah of the parents.' Personaly, I can proudly say that no one has ever been able to get me into a therapist, but I suppose they could be a great resource for some people who need to talk or get advice or whatever. I've always had the mindset of do it yourself and put yourself up by your own shoes or whatever the saying is buts that just my hypocritical dumbass. Also always seen 'therapy' as kind of a waste of time and money, which is kinda fun considering my mother is a therapist (but she is a great one, and her birthday is tomorrow. Also that's how I heard that line about how oh the child always blames him or herself for blah blah and many other lines) I'm going to stop here for now because it's late. I actually hope for your sake you are just making this situation up, to be honest. I'll more then likely edit some parts in tomorrow or you could just pm me or reply here. Good night and hope this isn't too rough for you, though I know it always is.
As stated, this isn't the best spot to ask for help. @Sir-Teabag linked a forum that seriously helped me out when I was going through some tough times. Personally I've never gone through this situation, so idk what to say. All I can say, is don't blame yourself. You get lots of kids who will end up harming them selves or guilting them selves because they believe it's their fault, or that they've lost everything. Yes, you're going through something tough, but the better thing is that you come out of this a few years later tougher than you are now. I hope your okay <3
I appreciate all the support guys! Grateful to be a part of this beautiful community. They decided to go their own ways. Everything is fine with me. Sorrow can not last forever, so I decided to leave my depression in the past. I never thought the mortification would cease, although it finally did and I am doing fine now. My friends and gaming helped me deal with the despondency. Thank you guys, I love you all! <3
Then again, you don't have to believe my words. I'm not the type of person to cry or be stuck on something for too long. It's something I chose to overcome. Nothing in reality will last forever. Of course I'll love both of my parents, but my father did my mother wrong. I prefer not to talk further about that, but understand that It's mind over matter. I don't like bringing up things in the past, or trying to reach attention. I came to this thread for moral support, as a back up. So please don't assume anything negative, if I thought wrong then I apologize. Although it sounded as if you didn't believe me and that is perfectly fine. Furthermore, I would like to thank everyone here. Carl, I'm not going to tell you twice. I really don't need your negative feedback. The thread was for support from people that I may connect to and bond with. My was never close with my father, only my mother. Only few can discern what I'm talking about. You don't know me, you don't know what happens in my life. The way I replied was a brief summary of what happened. I don't mean to sound belligerent, but then again your reply shows that you assume I was lying.
You posted a couple lines about how it was the worst day of your life and that your parents were divorcing and made it sound dramatic. This is a minecraft server forum website run by a 40 year old and inactive teenagers with a community of 11 year olds addicted to minecraft. Even so, I wrote 5+ paragraphs of advice and tried to help. I thought you were talking about the legal separation of your parents, along with lawyers, custody rulings, and at your supposed age of 15, court appearances. But I guess I'm not one of those 'few' who know what your talk about when you say divorce.
Listen, if I choose not to tell you what happened, that's just me. They're divorced, my dad is now living at my uncles house. So i'm tired of your ignorance. You don't know me and who I am. Please don't make assumptions in any way possible, because at this point you have me annoyed. You're really naive, I expected more then that.
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